I'm a yokemate!

It's a rather peculiar word - yokemate - but I just love the word picture it portrays. 
  • Partners 
  • Joined together
  • Committed
  • United in purpose

I'm Yoked Together
  • With my husband – my pastor! 
  • Single-minded
  • Partnered in purpose (2 Corinthians 6:14)

I'm Yoked with Christ
  • My companion and friend (Philippians 4:3)
  • Learning from Him
  • Resting in Him (Matthew 11:30)

The reality of being yoked together with my husband and my Savior - It is a work in progress.

So, how did I get here and who am I?

My name is Annette, and this coming May my husband and I will celebrate our 37th anniversary. Seems impossible! Since the day we said "I do," an amazing adventure began. Our story includes a summer internship in Lake Havasu City, Arizona, our early years in Clarkston, Washington and over 30 years in the Shenandoah Valley of Virginia. We've been blessed to raise three beautiful daughters who are now married and raising families of their own. We rejoice in watching God at work in their homes and are privileged to help nurture and love our seven grandchildren - with maybe a smidge of spoiling from time to time! 

Over the years, I have grown leaps and bounds in my faith and have searched to understand God's plan for my life. In the midst of my discoveries, God gave me a passion to encourage others in ministry - and specifically those who carry the title of "pastor's wife." In time, God nudged me to spread His love with other pastors' wives and opened doors for me to...
  • Lead a weekly chat for pastors' wives on Crosswalk.com (when online forums were all the rage!) 
  • Self-publish a newsletter for pastors' wives for over a decade.
  • Have a few articles published in 'Just Between Us' magazine.
  • Be blessed to lead a few workshops for pastors' wives at denominational events.
  • Introduce myself to others which then blossomed into some precious friendships.
My 'credentials' don't mean a thing other than reflecting my deep desire to encourage other pastors' wives. My prayer is that you will find in my story some sense of understanding, hope, friendship and peace. May we all go beyond our fears of "Woe is me" and humble ourselves before God to exclaim in confidence "Here I am. Send me." (Isaiah 6)

...and in the spirit of giving our lives to God for His purposes, check out this great song entitled, "I Will Go" by Big Daddy Weave.


Do You Speak at Events?

When God gives me the opportunity, yes. 

Over the past 30 years, I have enjoyed teaching teens and women through one-on-one discipleship, small groups and workshops - groups ranging in size from 1-40. I have also had the opportunity to speak publicly, with some 'fear and trembling,' before groups of 200 or more. In all of these situations, my style of speaking is formatted more like a teacher in such that it is conversational in style - like my writing. 

What drives my desire to teach?
  • I am committed to the authority and power of God's Word and how its truth can impact and change our lives each day. 
  • I am passionate about local church ministry and the opportunities that God has given those in leadership to encourage and equip the Body of Christ. 
  • I believe the promise that God's Word gives us in Isaiah 55:9-12 that as we share the truths of Scripture with others we can be assured that seeds will be planted in the hearts and minds of those who hear it.
  • I am convinced that the 'trickle down' effect can have tremendous impact on the Kingdom. If we, as women, are healthy in our relationship with our Heavenly Father, we will be better equipped to influence those around us for Christ and be better helpmates to our pastor/husbands.
Ministry wives, regardless of their husband's title -
  • senior, lead or solo pastor
  • staff pastor, director or leader
  • church-planter
  • seminary student
  • 'unassigned' or 'retired' pastor
...all need encouragement and the opportunity to have their passion for and partnership with the Gospel strengthened throughout their journey. If I can help to be one part of that puzzle, I'd love to share with your women's group, at a retreat or a conference event. 

How often will there be a new blog post?

My goal is to update the blog weekly and update the extra pages (listed on the tabs) from time to time. Blog posts often focus on something that recently happened in my life - on a Sunday or during the week - and how God worked in my heart. 

One example is the morning I discovered a communication breakdown within the first few minutes of arriving at the church. How did I cope? Well, I didn't do as well as I could have.

So, what happened?

1. I was blindsided with a change - not what had been agreed to.
2. I was quick to blame (internally) who I thought was the perpetrator.
3. When others questioned the change I watched my words, but I could have done better.
4. Soon I found out why the change occurred. 
5. I didn't agree with the process, but understood the why's and the non-malicious intent.
6. I backtracked and 'fixed' #3 - regretting my lack of self-control.
7. I had to lower my emotions and ask God to help me 'Get over myself.'
8. I took a deep breath, let the stress flow out, gave it back to God and enjoyed worship.


I don't know if you have that drama going on in your head from time to time, but I'm assuming so. In sharing my not so glamorous roller coaster ride of life with you, I'm hopeful that God will use my human frailty to show His grace and abundant love...and give you hope and possibly a few tools to help you do better than I did in a particular situation. After all, we're in this together!

"Now may the God of peace, who through the blood of the eternal covenant 
brought back from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great Shepherd of the sheep, 
equip you with everything good for doing his will, 
and may he work in us what is pleasing to him, through Jesus Christ,
to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen." Hebrews 13:20-21


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