you ever stopped to consider how many words we share with others in just one
if we had our own personal ‘word count’ button (like in MS Word) that we
could click on? Yes, we'd have a literal word count, but it wouldn't include the
words that often speak the loudest - the words we communicate with our hands,
our tone of voice and our facial expressions. Whether our words are put into
print, are spoken or are merely an innuendo understood clearly by the listener,
we each have moments when we wish we had a button to erase each misspoken
word or rambling sentence.
together a short, yet meaningful message, for a birthday card, a voicemail or a text can be very challenging. Too minimal and we run the risk of being
cryptic and confusing. Too many words can turn into rambling, and we lose
focus of our purpose. Choosing our words wisely takes extra thought,
but it is always a worthwhile investment.
week, I ran across a great quote -
“My words, sometimes even my lack of
words, have caused me much pain over the years. It hasn’t always been that I
have gossiped or lied. Sometimes I just talk too much. Or I repeat the words
of others, which I should not have. Other times I have tried to say the right
thing, but it came out the wrong way. Or I have said the right thing but in the
presence of the wrong people or at the wrong time. There was just no shortage
to the ways I could misuse my mouth.” - Karen Ehman from her book, ‘Keep It Shut: What to say, How to
say it and When to say nothing at all.’
Words! They can be heaven sent and bring healing to ourselves and others.
Words! They can spew out poison that is impossible to wash away. The cost is great!
James 3:6b warns us that “The tongue corrupts the whole body [and] sets the whole course of
one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.” Wow! Our words can
be “set on fire by hell.” Well, that
explains a lot about what happens in both the believer's and the unbeliever’s attempts to communicate clearly and kindly. We have an enemy that loves to
cause confusion, heartache and misery. We must be on guard and stand firm
against the schemes of the enemy.
How can we choose our words wisely in the days ahead?
We need to fill up on God’s Word. – Matthew 12:34b "For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of."
We need to surround ourselves with positive
witnesses. - "Walk with the wise and become wise." Proverbs 13:20b
We need to understand the impact of our
words. - "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." Ephesians 4:29
We need to ask God to guard our mouths. – “Set
a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips.” Psalm 141:3
We need to seek God’s ways. – “All a person’s
ways seem pure to them, but motives are weighed by the Lord.” Proverbs 16:2
"A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of." Matthew 12:35
~ For more encouragement take a free sneak peek of Karen Ehman’s
encouraging words about taming the tongue. Check out the video preview of ‘Keep it Shut: What to say,
How to say it and When to say nothing at all’ (Lesson 1) Just go to www.christianbook.com/biblestudysamples
and scroll down until you see the image of the book. Click on it and then
scroll down to the video. I found this to be a great tool to help me decide on the topic for our next Women’s Bible Study. And, the bonus – Being able to
listen to this lesson was an unexpected and refreshing moment for my soul.
~ Some of the other Bible Study titles who have
full video samples include:
for Nothing’ by Max Lucado
‘Unglued’ by Lysa TerKeurst
Makes You Happy’ by Andy Stanley
~ For more encouragement on partnering
with your husband - your pastor - and your Savior, check out yokemates.blogspot.com or send me a note
via the contact form. I’d love to hear from you!