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We all love the fun little quotes that people post on facebook and message to one another. But, there are also times when we need to embrace the quotes that make us ponder and search a bit for their meaning. One of the best sayings that was given to me as a 'soon-to-be pastor's wife' was this...

  • You are responsible to people, not for people.

There is tremendous insight and impact tied up into those two little words: to and for

 As a Christian, and as a pastor's wife, I do not have to have all the answers. God has that covered. I am to be generous and caring, a servant of God's grace. I can easily embrace the sentiment of being responsible to people and genuinely enjoy being used by God to help others work through tough situations.

In contrast, the freedom that is found in the final three words is monumental. I do not have to hold myself accountable for the actions of others - regardless of whether or not I shared the right words, offered a prayer or spent countless hours trying to console and counsel them. God has not asked me to be responsible for other people. (I've actually got my hands full just trying to keep myself straight!)

 I am responsible to share God's love and to share God's truth.

 I am not responsible for the choices people make - even if that choice was made immediately after they sought my help or listening ear.

 The freedom from that responsibility doesn't "get us off the hook," but it does put things into perspective. When faced with challenging situations don't forget to pray for God's grace, seek God's wisdom and encourage others to seek God's grace and wisdom as well!

 "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you." James 1:5






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