Have you ever had a bright idea that you shared with a friend or
with your husband that just didn’t seem to get the reaction you were hoping
for? I sure have, and it is a true let down. How could that awesome idea have
landed so flat? Did I just not explain it well? Did they even hear what I said?
What is even more confusing – and sometimes infuriating – is when
someone else shares that very same idea a few weeks later and it is received
with excitement and accolades. Inside you hear that little voice saying “Why do
they get the credit and not me?” It is a strange phenomenon that most of us have experienced from time to time.
So, what made the difference?
Perhaps, it was just the timing of the conversation.
Perhaps, the days or weeks between the idea sharing allowed some
pondering to take place.
Perhaps, they really didn’t hear your idea – or really listen to
it – because they were distracted, tired or just weren’t ready to process any
more information at that time.
After you get over the initial disappointment of being looked over
and underappreciated, there is a great silver lining that I don’t want you to
miss. Yep! The exciting thing is that your husband (friend or coworker) has finally ‘seen
the light’ and has embraced your idea – even if you don’t get the
credit for it. After all, does it really matter whose idea it was? The point is
– if you had a good idea and it is now being acted on – it’s a win
for all involved!
When I learned this principle in life, I was able to let go of my
personal disappointment (in not being heard) and jump on board with the plan.
My team player mindset increased and that sneaky pest of pride was squelched
before it blew things out of proportion. I was able to embrace humility and
appreciate God’s timing and plan.
It is sweet when I feel heard.
It is refreshing when I feel appreciated.
It is rewarding when my ideas are acknowledged.
But, that isn't always reality.
What is scary to face is that when I have an idea that I am excited
to share with others, I have no preconceived dreams of any praise that I may receive. I’m just excited about the idea - a possible solution to a problem. However, when
I’m not heard or acknowledged, I can struggle with my emotions. Getting my "flesh" to get
in line with my spirit takes a few minutes of contemplation and a reminder of
the truths found in Philippians 2:3-4 which challenges us all to “Do nothing out of selfish
ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not
looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”
That says it all.
My idea, your idea, it really doesn’t matter. If it really is a
good idea, it is very likely God’s idea...and He deserves all the praise!